Going through a divorce and being faced with a custody hearing may make you wonder how you could have been so naive to think that you were recently living the 'perfect' life. Letdowns that are emotionally charged can cause severe depression, rage, humility, and many other negative emotions. If you feel unstable and are having difficulty remaining focused on your responsibilities, seek therapeutic assistance through one-on-one adult counseling sessions.

You Need Perspective In Your Life

Things aren't always going to go according to how you envisioned and your failed marriage and custody distress are two prime examples of how life can be very unpredictable. A counselor can assist with putting things into perspective so that you can focus on what really matters and be appreciative of all the blessings that you have received.

For instance, maybe your counselor will ask you about your interests, your personal relationship with your children, some of the special things that you have done with them, and a few of the achievements that you have made since you were a youngster. Positive situations and loved ones can often be taken for granted. You are healthy, capable, and caring. Your counselor may suggest that you try to remain focused on maintaining a semblance of normalcy in your and your children's lives.

You probably have no intentions of hurting your children and you want them to feel loved and secure when they spend time with you or your ex-spouse. It is alright to feel sad and discouraged, but you need to piece your life back together and find a reason to wake up and smile each day. Positive affirmations, self-pampering, and spending time around others can be beneficial during this difficult time.

You Need To Try To Be Honest With Yourself And Others

Whether you keep your thoughts to yourself or voice them aloud, honesty is essential. It can be scary to admit that your marriage is over or that you are uncertain if you will be awarded custody of your kids.

Being in denial will not help with these issues and could push you over the edge when you finally realize that things are never going to go back to the way that they once were. Tell yourself that you are a good person and that it is not the end of the world because you went through a divorce. Tell your counselor what is weighing on your mind and seek refuge in the private sessions that will allow you to confidently reveal your darkest thoughts.